A FREE RESOURCE
Everyone deserves to be authentically honored in deathcare.
Identity Affirming Deathcare Directives provides free tools and resources to help you consider, communicate, and document how your identity, relationships, values, beliefs, and wishes may inform your end-of-life and deathcare decisions.
Deathcare is personal. Our relationships, culture, gender, sexuality, religion, secular or spiritual identity, traditions, values, and understanding of ourselves can all influence what feels meaningful and authentic.
IADD helps you think about those connections, start conversations with the people you trust, and communicate your identity-specific wishes to the people and professionals who will someday help carry them out
The Identity Affirming Deathcare Directives Workbook
A free guided resource to help you reflect on how identity may influence your wishes and record information you want your loved ones and providers to know.
Reflect. Consider questions you may not have been asked before.
Discuss. Start conversations with people you trust.
Document. Record information that can help others better understand your wishes.
These links will open in a separate tab as a PDF document. You can save the documents to your computer or print or print them.
We are currently working on the 3rd Edition. If you have comments or suggestions, please contact us.
Who do you want speaking for you after you die?
The Deathcare Surrogate form helps you think about, identify, and document who you would like to handle your final arrangements. It includes guidance for finding the requirements in your state and helps you clearly communicate who you trust to carry out your deathcare wishes after you are gone.
IADD For Professionals
For funeral directors, therapists, healthcare providers, celebrants, doulas, clergy, and other professionals, IADD can be used as a conversation and reflection tool to help clients consider how their identity, relationships, values, beliefs, and community may inform their end-of-life and deathcare wishes.
The IADD, without assuming what matters to someone based on a label, offers questions that can help professionals better understand the individual, identify concerns or preferences that might otherwise be overlooked, and connect those wishes with appropriate planning, care, and resources.
The workbook can be shared for clients to explore independently or used to support more personalized, informed, and identity-affirming conversations in professional practice and to help professional make a grieving family more comfortable.
“I met with a family today, whose child passed away at age 30, due to a car accident. She…has been in the process of transitioning. I believe the booklet helped me to help the family feel more comfortable.”
– Anon. Funeral Director
